Getting a guy to obsess over you can be as easy as sending him the right text messages.
But what are the “right” text messages? And which ones will have the opposite effect? Read on to find out.
Flirty Text Messages To Send A Man You Like
Ever been totally stuck about what to text a guy?
Or sent a text (or more than one!) and got a cold, emotionless reply or, worse, never heard back at all?
Anyone who’s ever dated knows how confusing and frustrating working out what to text a guy can be.
In our cellphone-obsessed world, just a few words you write in a text message can be the difference between winning his heart and being put on his permanent ignore list.
Now, when it comes to texting, there are certain things that instantly trigger a man’s curiosity, interest and desire. And there are also texts that are a total turn-off and guarantee you’ll never hear back. Today I’m going to give you the inside scoop on both!
Text Messaging is The New Language of Love
It’s crazy to think about it, but most romantic communication happens via text these days. They’re like what love letters were back in Casanova’s days.
And the truth is our whole love lives can hang on a few measly words written in a text. Kinda sad but it’s the reality of the smartphone generation.
Have a think about a time you texted a guy you really liked and got a cold, distant response.
Or worse, never got a reply at all!
You spent hours staring at his number on your phone, trying to work out what to write.
Finally, you start tapping away at your phone’s keypad… spending what feels like FOREVER writing what you think is the perfect text.
Then you reread it.
“Ugh… I can’t send that,” you think to yourself.
So you delete it all. And start writing again from scratch. You write, delete, write, delete over and over, driving yourself to the point of anxiety…
Now you’re starting to question whether you should even be texting him.
“Will I come across clingy? Desperate?” you wonder.
Eventually, you give in and hit send.
You sit and wait for a reply. Checking your phone every two minutes.
Nothing. Zilch. Complete radio silence. Hours pass…
He HAS to have read it by now. Why isn’t he responding?
It’s only one freaking text message! Why is it so difficult?
How can you lose your one chance with the guy you like just because you wrote the wrong thing in a text?
Well, there are multiple reasons. Let’s take a look at them now.
Essential Texting R.U.L.E.S. Every Woman Must Know
Now, before I reveal the flirty texts that will make him want you, there are some important text message rules us ladies need to follow before we hit that all mighty send button.
Texting Rule #1
Re-read Your Message
There’s nothing that kills a powerfully flirty text message like spelling mistakes or an embarrassing autocorrect.
I know I might sound like your elementary school teacher here, ladies, but please, please, please re-read your texts at least five times before sending them.
Texting Rule #2
Use Visual Language
Us ladies prefer getting descriptive messages that evoke our feelings. But men are visual creatures. They respond best to visual language that gets their imaginations running!
Let me give you an example.
Instead of texting him this:
“I really miss you”
…you could instead write:
“I really want to kiss you right now.”
See how that’ll get your man’s imagination running?
Texting Rule #3
Leave Him Wanting More
This is an easy one. It simply means don’t over do it! If you blow up your man’s phone with pointless messages he won’t look forward to hearing from you. Instead, he’ll groan when he sees your name pop-up on his lock-screen.
Texting Rule #4
Excite Him (No Boring Messages!)
Nothing’s more of a turn off than boring text messages. You know the ones… “Hi” or “What’s up?”
It’s painful for your man to read these, let alone reply. They do nothing to excite your man’s imagination. Every message you send your man should be well thought out, exciting and captivating.
Texting Rule #5
This one might sound obvious but if you want to win a man’s heart by texting him, never send him anything negative or depressing. Sure, you might be having a less than great day, but don’t take to texting to vent.
3 Texts You Should Never Send A Guy You Like
Ok, now it’s time to get down to the good stuff. What to text the guy you like!
But just before I do, there are certain types of texts you should NEVER under ANY circumstances send the guy you like.
These are instant romance killers! And even worse, could even see your number deleted from his cell for good!
Terrible Text #1: “Hey”, “Hello”, or “What’s up?”
These messages suck because they don’t do anything to stir up emotion in your guy, and not to mention they make you seem incredibly boring. Just don’t. All right, ladies?
Terrible Text #2: Updates On Your Every Move
Filling your man’s inbox with texts about your every waking move is a big no-no.
As much as you think it’s the end of the world that the coffee shop is out of your favorite bagel, he doesn’t care, nor does he want to know.
With each dull, mundane text you send he’ll lose more and more interest.
Terrible Text #2: “What Are You Up To??”
If he doesn’t willingly tell you what he’s doing, then it’s probably because he doesn’t feel it’s worth sharing.
When you send him these kind of text messages it’ll seem like a chore for him to respond.
Now, ladies, I want you to make a pact with me right here and now.
Say it with me now…
“AMY, I PROMISE I WILL NEVER SEND THESE THREE TYPES OF TEXTS TO A GUY.”
OK, now you’ve made that promise to me, you’re all set to learn the flirty texts that’ll have your man craving you every time he looks at his phone.
5 Flirty Text Message Examples That’ll Make A Man Obsess Over You
Texting is a totally different game to speaking in person or on the phone. You really do have to say things a little differently when texting instead of talking.
The five flirty text messages I’m about to share with you are part of what I call the Devotion System. A secret set of techniques that switch on you man’s strongest desire for you.
With just a few short lines, these texts ignite any guy’s visual mind, stirring up his lust and desire, even if you’re miles apart from each other.
Flirty Text #1: The “Comical Text”
The first kind of text message to send a man to get him to lust over you is what I call the “Comical Text”. This is a light-hearted, humorous text to make the guy you’re into laugh.
Laughter is one of the easiest ways to a man’s heart. Be that witty and whimsical woman that every man dreams of finding.
But be careful. Don’t turn everything into a joke. And don’t add “LOL” or “haha” to every text message.
Flirty Text #2: The Question and Arouse (aka Q&A) Text
This is for when you want to get to know your guy a little better.
Instead of sending mundane questions, like:
“What are you up to??”
“How was your day?”
Try texting him something like this instead:
“What are you wearing right now?”
“What do you want me to do to you later?”
This really turns up the heat and arouses his imagination!
Flirty Text #3: The “Life Lover” Text
This text expresses your confidence and love for life. The key here is to keep your message positive and radiating with passion for life.
Maybe you comment on the wonderful day you’re having. Or telling him all about the praise you got from your boss.
Whatever you choose, the words should tell the story of a woman who is bold, brave, knows what she wants! Trust me, this boldness will make your guy go ga-ga.
Flirty Text #4: The “Nude Illusion”
This one’s pretty simple. With just a few careful, sometimes harmless words you place images of your sexy, naked body in your guy’s mind.
With these texts you’re tapping deep into his dirty imagination. Making him unable to focus on anything but the thoughts of your nude body by sending visual texts like…
“Gotta run, I have to go buy a bikini”
“I’m going to take a long, hot shower.”
“Guess who’s not wearing any panties? ;-)”
But this DOESN’T mean sending nude selfies though! Even if he begs!
Flirty Text #5: The “Tickle His Senses”
Guys fear rejection. So, it’s important to show him know that you’re interested. The key is to be subtle. And that’s what this text example will do.
Flirt with him, laugh lots and throw a compliment his way. Tickle all of his senses. Make him feel good so he’ll CRAVE being around you.
The point here is to give him a little taste of your sensual side. But to leave him wanting more!
He’s Responding To My Texts! Now What Do I Do?
Now, these flirty text tips and secrets are a great start.
They’ll get your man’s attention, put you in his thoughts every time he reaches into his pocket for his phone…
But text message exchanges aren’t a one-time thing.
Until your man is totally hooked, lying next to you in bed every morning with eyes only for you, interest can disappear in seconds if you don’t keep sending the right things to push your man’s buttons.
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OK, ladies, now it’s time to reach for that phone and start igniting your man’s desire with the flirty texts you’ve just discovered!
Go on. Try out my techniques on that guy you like today.
Oh, and be sure to drop me a comment and let me know all about it.